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What if you lost your cool?

by Steve on August 16, 2010 · 1 comment

00069“A man is about as big as the things that make him angry” – Winston Churchill

This thought crossed my mind today as I traveled through the airport security on my way out of town.  I was alone, but most around me weren’t.  The guy in front of me was extremely impatient and quickly growing angry that our line was not moving as fast as the others.

Patience tested in the airport line

I noticed a family with all the fixings, stroller, car seat, baby, two older kids, luggage and electronics.  I thought about the few times that I’ve been in that position.  It’s a hassle.  Not fun.

This dad was handling things well, but I could see his patience being tested.  What would it take to make him snap.  Would he make snide remarks about the TSA agents?  Could he grumble under his breath just loud enough that the kids heard?  If he were really pushed, would he lose his cool in front of his kids?

None of this happened.  He pulled it off extremely well.  We all know he had to be fighting internal battles, but the point is that he didn’t look like an idiot in front of his kids.  He looked awesome.  He played the role of the strong father and husband leading the family.  He set the example even if his kids didn’t know it.

What if he would have lost his cool?

What would set you off?  What would cause you to lose your cool and say something stupid, something damaging to another person or something that shows you are not in control of your emotions?

It’s bad enough when you’re alone and your temperature boils.  You know when that is… in the car or in line at the store?  What about when you are running late because your wife and kids are not ready….still not ready?

What do your kids see?  What do they learn from you?

They learn from watching you, so make the show worth watching.  Teach them calm, patience and understanding through your actions.  Show them the bigger picture to life and that it shouldn’t be wasted on giving too much worth to inconveniences.  Try not to speak when you’re angry.

As I wrote this, I became more convicted about how my daughter sees me.  I have some work to do.

Intentional work.

photo by: nabokova

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Coach John November 30, 2010 at 8:37 am

Thoughtful perspective. I suspect this is an area that most men could take a long hard look. Certainly is true for me. The words I use, especially with my loved ones, are so important.

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